human V nature
Ever hear the old ‘natures cycle’ talk in a yoga class? The idea that we should take cues from trees and rivers in learning how to live with grace through the seasons of our lives?
I’m sure you have. And I’m sure you probably rolled your eyes too. Sure, it might feel a bit floaty. Too 'obvious' or 'simple' for our complex lives. I mean what does a tree know about Vicky from accounts flirting with your husband?
But tbf, it's true.
Have you ever seen anything in nature resist, well, anything?
Have you ever seen trees just sat there screaming 'piss off' as they hold onto their dead as hell leaves when autumn rolls in? How about flowers with their arms crossed just outright refusing to bloom when spring arrives?
Have you ever seen the sun chilling in the sky being all like: my bad guys, I know its summer but I am not warming up for ya'll (she's from texas okay) I just don’t feel ready yet.
You might think I'm being funny (I am, aren’t I), but seriously have you?
Nope. Why? Because mother nature is sleek AF. Gliding in and out of the seasons without a hint of resistance.
Then there's us humans. Lol. About us.
Us humans who believe everything should always be in #livingmybestlife full bloom, that we must rush endings and always have an impressive 'plan' for what is next.
Us humans who believe we can only be dragged through change kicking and screaming 'fuckkk offff noooooo' as we grip onto the old whilst having one eye open, desperately hoping for something new.
Me too. It’s hard though right? That comfort zone is cosy AF, even when it’s a bit shit. And change is scary, even though we know deep down it’s a part of life.
So how do we do it? How do we honour each stage of life as it arrives and know when to let it go?
How do we release the need to hold on, resist, scream expletives and instead let ourselves be moved by life?
To acknowledge all things fully, to know that none of them last forever and that's okay.
How do we sit with endings without knowing what happens next? How do we simply sit in the loss, the letting go and let that be IT, just for a moment?
The process of letting go is not something we tick off, achieve or force. It happens naturally through the process of acknowledgement, accepting and feeling the presence of that ending, loss, or feeling of grief.
And just like those smartass trees, releasing those leaves that were once a precious part of who you are but can no longer be, is the only way to create space for new growth.